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Every individual has the right for a voice. Couples have the right to make a decision. Families have the right to create a mutual choice. All these are true, and they also apply when it comes to the matter of adoption.
Adoption is a big and weighty topic. Society has wrapped a negative notion around it, tagging adoption as a bad thing or a pitiful thing for adopted kids, however it must not be looked at in such a stereotypical way. Adoption is actually one of the best avenues by which a lot of people show and give love and by which a lot of people feel and become loved.
People who decide to adopt are taking on a new and unique chapter in their lives, which not every person experiences. Individuals, couples and families have life situations different from each other, thus, what drives them to adopt a child varies too.
Below are 7 common reasons why some people adopt kids. Read the whole piece, and be enlightened.
1 – INFERTILITY
Infertility is the most common and the most popular reason why couples adopt kids. Although they themselves want to produce an offspring, this condition hampers them.
For couples who desire and dream of building their family with their own lovely little children, the news of a partner’s or of both person’s infertility causes a stinging heartbreak.
When the female does not have the capacity to conceive a child or when the male does not have the ability to impregnate his wife, one of their major options is adoption.
Adoption gives comfort and hope to couples with infertility issues. Though the kids they are going to adopt do not come from their own flesh and blood, they love them just like they do.
2 – HEALTH RISKS FROM PREGNANCY
Some married couples can actually reproduce, however, they still choose to adopt because of other medical conditions that bring in high chances of risks to the health of the female, the one who will bear and give birth.
This is why it is important that before a couple starts a family, they must carefully plan. Especially if the wife has some known diseases and other health problems which may worsen due to pregnancy or which may even lead to death, caution is a must. Consulting a doctor is necessary to know if it will be safe for her to carry and deliver a child. This is for both the mother’s and the baby’s sake too.
Heart diseases, lupus, diabetes and epilepsy are just some of those infirmities that may urge the doctor to tell that the idea of pregnancy for the couple is really not a good decision to make.
For the safety, recovery and peace of mind of the couple, adoption is there as an ideal option. Because of it, they may nurture a child not from their own conception while they remain alive and well.
3 – THE FEAR OF PASSING HEREDITARY DISORDERS
This reason may be rarely considered by most people, but for those who are aware of serious health conditions running in the family’s every generation, they go for adoption instead of giving birth to their own offspring.
Because of the fear of passing these grave hereditary disorders, some couples adopt kids. Even if there’s a 50-50 chance and even if they can still cling to hope, some just cannot afford to imagine how their future kids will suffer the same medical problems that most people in the clan suffer from. Instead of taking risks, they opt for the safest and most certain way to have a child for themselves, and that is adoption.
4 – THEY HELP PARENTS WHO ARE UNABLE TO RAISE THEIR KIDS AND KIDS WHO CANNOT BE RAISED BY THEIR PARENTS.
Some people adopt kids when they know that the kids’ parents do not have the ability to raise them. Maybe it is because of the biological parents’ financial inadequacy, their need to go far to work or, sadly, drug addiction, alcoholism, gambling and their lack of concern for their own kids.
Other adoptive parents are actually blood-related to their adopted kids. For instance, they could be their own nieces, nephews or cousins. Some may not be related by blood, but are connected in other ways such as the parents of the adopted child are their neighbors, workmates or friends.
Through adoption, some help the parents to provide a good or better life for their children whom they cannot raise by themselves. But some mainly aim to help the kids with parents who are incapable to foster them or who just do not care.
5 – THE DESIRE TO BE A PARENT IN SINGLEHOOD
Not everyone understands this, but some people desire to stay single while being a parent to someone too. They want to be a loving parent, not a romantic partner. They choose parenthood in the middle of singlehood. That’s why they adopt one or more children whom they can cherish in life. They are solo parents by choice.
6 – FAMILY EXPANSION
Some families still decide to adopt one or more kids even when they have their biological babies already. Why? They want to grow their family without having to impregnate and/or to get pregnant again.
Of course, they sincerely talk about this with their own kids to know if they are fine with it because if the kids are not, there would be chaos in the family, maybe not yet now but soon as they grow up and old. Furthermore, if expansion is the sole reason for adoption, the parents must be competent to support the whole family financially.
7 – THEY JUST WANT TO SHARE MORE OF THE LOVE THEY HAVE.
There are people who adopt kids because they have a big storage of love in their lives waiting to be received by other people. Heartwarmingly, they just love to love others, especially children. And one of the ways they do that is by giving a kid or giving kids a home through adoption.
A lot of people think that adoption is only what dramas say it is — that it always has to be because a newborn baby was left in the garbage site and that it must be kept as a huge secret forever. Nope, it’s not like that.
Adoptive individuals, couples and families have varying circumstances that have paved the way for their plan and commitment to adopt. The above-mentioned reasons are just some in the long list of possible reasons out there.
If you are someone who is thinking of and planning to legally adopt one or more kids, keep in mind that it is a long-term responsibility to take. That is why legal adoption happens in quite a lengthy process.
You will have to be scrutinized to determine if you are totally qualified to become an adoptive parent. There will be a lot of documents and files to manage. You will also be professionally counselled and guided to know more about adoption and parenting, so you can make the best decisions and be prepared once you have settled on them. Adoption lawyers are also among the most important people you can and must work with to execute plans and to succeed in the whole adoption process. Definitely, there will be more steps, depending on your unique situation, so you have to be informed and assisted.
Surely, adopting is not an easy conclusion to make because welcoming a child, who is oftentimes a complete stranger to the adoptive individuals, is not a joke and is not easy. For individuals who do not have their biological offspring, adopting means entering parenthood, which is a tremendously challenging life pursuit; yet, many people, choose to take this path because after all, they believe that it is a fulfillment. Meanwhile, for those who already have their own kids but still choose to adopt, well, that’s another kind of fulfillment.
At the end of the day, adoption is a channel of showering more love and to be showered with more love. That’s why for whatever the reason one has for adopting or for being adopted, no one deserves to be misjudged, belittled and undervalued.
ABOUT THE AUTHOR:
Nicole Ann Pore is a writer, an events host and a voice over artist. She finds quality and well-researched writing as a worthwhile avenue to enlighten and delight others about things that matter. For her, it’s restoring and fulfilling to the heart and a great way to clear the mind while loading it up with fresh learning. Film critiquing and filmmaking are among her interests too. Giving all the glory to God, Nicole graduated Cum Laude from De La Salle University Manila, Philippines with a Bachelor’s Degree in Communication Arts.
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